Journaling For Healing & Creativity - Part II - Don't Know What You're Feeling?
A LOT of people are unaware of what they're feeling in a specific moment. For most of us, our emotional vocabulary was severely tampered with and we faced so much disapproval in our early lives about feeling something, that we found a coping mechanism to disconnect from our feelings.
Your feelings and emotions live in your body, which always lives in the present. When you disconnect from your feelings you also disconnect from your body which is a trusted guide on your life path. If you can't access your feelings/emotions, you will find it difficult to understand your body's signals for mental or physical illness and therefore never be able to prevent them or heal them before they're full blown.
When you can't feel your feelings you're also out of touch with your internal guidance system. What some people call the GPS, others call the inner pilot light and yet others name the inner wise voice. This can be the worst thing for anyone because it leaves you without an anchor to align with your authentic self. And what happens when you're out of touch with your authentic self? You feel tired, exhausted, out of whack, and everything in your life feels like an uphill task!
If you're reading this right now, pause and take moment to answer this - In this very moment what are you feeling? What physical sensations? What emotions? Next, picture a person in your life. How does that person's energy affect your inner senses? What do you feel emotionally in that person's company?
A majority of people today, don't have answers to these questions. Their emotional vocabulary is limited and their connection with their body is too broken for them to be able to describe their feelings.
Here are some examples of answers that describe this disconnection:
What do you feel about your aunt?
That she's had a tough life and that I need to show her I care in whatever way I can.
What do you feel about your job?
That I need to work hard to create a stable future for my family.
These answers don't describe feelings, but only thoughts. The kind of thoughts that people told us are socially acceptable.
But if you allowed yourself to access what you truly feel about some of these situations you might feel that you are uncomfortable around your aunt and that you get a deeply sinking feeling every time you go to work. When you really allow yourself to feel your emotion, you will be guided in a way that is most authentic and true to your being. BUT, it may not be convenient, it may not be safe, and it may not always be easy!
So no wonder we lose touch with our emotions early on - to keep safe, to do what's easy and stick with what's convenient. That's what everyone else around us models after all!
Apart from some exceptions, most families don't allow the unreasonable inner voice to be fully expressed. They do their best to convince us that we don't have to feel how we're feeling. It starts from as little as 'I know you fell down, BUT you're a brave boy! Don't cry' (in essence we're telling our child, don't feel your pain).
Here's how journaling can help you reconnect with your Inner GPS, Innerwise voice or the Inner Pilot Light:
Journaling allows you to create a safe space where slowly but surely you can feel totally safe and not judged about feeling what you feel. Whether that's occasional hatred, frustration or anger that is labeled as 'unreasonable' by everyone around you, journaling gives you a chance to express each emotion clearly and without doubt.
Journaling can help you to uncover layers that sometimes remain hidden at the first go. After all, so many years of conditioning can take away from you the chance to understand or express your emotions with ease. But with continued journaling practice and removing of a few peels at a time, eventually you can go deeper into a lot of areas that you were previously stuck in.
Regular journaling helps you to get a lot of your incessant thinking patterns out of the way so that it becomes easier for you to access your non-rational, wordless, right brain. That gives you a chance to feel more fully.
Here are some tips for those of you who would like to feel your emotions to sharpen your creative intuition and access your inner voice:
1. In any given moment, ask yourself, "How Do I Feel?" "What Do I Feel?"
2. Listen without judgement
3. Allow every feeling the space to be heard and accepted
4. Notice the sensations that arise in your body
5. Your body is your best compass, occasionally through the day, scan your body internally and notice what kind of sensations you feel.
6. Notice the sensations without judgement - you can label them, but don't try to change or alter anything.
7. Just be a curious observer of your emotions and where they live - the sensations in your body
As you practice the above steps for a length of time, you will notice how you become more and more adept at feeling your emotion and opening up a well of insights for you to steer your life in a more wholesome direction!
And soon you'll know that it is the most hugely rewarding experience!
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