Listen to her intuitive wisdom on things/areas that you are stuck on

Recognise that her inputs will come from the angles that may not occur to you normally

When she flares up at a joke or insinuation that you're making, take a pause and see what she really means instead of feeling tempted to defend your stance - she's not fighting against you necessarily but against a lot of confusion and misplaced power over hundreds of years

If you want a deep connection - Ask her about her passion, her dreams and her fears

She can be a non-judgemental sounding board for you - she may not be used to it but if ask her explicitly to listen and allow yourself to be vulnerable, there can be healing and connection for both of you